SIDE NOTE: Well, Brynn has successfully passed her flu to Mom and Dad. Although no one really likes to feel like garbage, I'd be glad to do it if I could guarantee my milk wouldn't dry up. Because I can't keep enough liquids down, though, I'm really worried! So if anyone has any brilliant advice beyond "do the best you can to drink little bits as often as possible," which I'm already doing, I'm open for advice!
That said, on with today's real meat. I'm writing at 4 AM because I feel really yucky and can't sleep, so if this isn't as coherent as I'd like, kindly cut me some slack. If you read this post between 7 AM and 9:30 AM, you'll notice I've pared a lot down.
SUMMARY OF WHAT THIS POST IS REALLY ABOUT:
I just haven't been satisfied with my previous posts on Socialization because my own clarity on the subject is slowly developing. I think, though, this post will finally say what I've been trying to express.
Bottom line is this: what is the purpose of Socialization?
Seriously, think about it for a minute.
If you would contest that the purpose of socialization is to learn how to read social expectations well enough to meet them and "blend in," then by all means send your children to public schools.
But I believe the ultimate purpose of socialization--the real point behind ANY human interaction--is the ability to create successful, meaningful, long-term relationships in our families and our communities.
THE LONGER VERSION
Did my own time spent in school help me with this kind of socialization--the kind that prepared me for being a wife and mother? I can't think of a single thing that I learned in school that prepared me for my current role. In fact, the only things I do remember are the things that encouraged me AWAY from my current role (like encouragement to aspire to a career instead of the "limiting" and totally "not cool" role of homemaking).
I thank God every day that having married the husband I did, I was able to have this role--and that he thinks it's important for me to be home with my children. I have been so pleasantly surprised by the joy and satisfaction found here that I have never found in any corporate or schooling pursuit.
I have a strong conviction--on a religious level as well as a personal level--that the family, when successfully done, is the greatest source of happiness a person can experience. Indeed, it is the crowning glory of God. We are His children. And if we are obedient to God's laws and rely on the atonement for our deficiencies, it is our privilege to have our own children forever in the eternal world. And it is this--having children--that is the very source of God's glory and happiness!
Homeschooling builds the family. Public schooling, at best, separates it for untold hours a day with little benefit and, at worst, directly undermines it.
So am I worried about my kids missing the "socialization" offered by public schools? Not in the least. I hope to prepare them for a far greater, far deeper set of social skills--those skills only acquired and mastered in the home.
Can you have close families when kids are in public school? Yes, it is possible--but it's also been my experience that this is the exception to the rule. And why take the risk?
It seems obvious to me that the more time you spend in any one environment, the more you learn about being successful in that environment. I mastered being what other people wanted me to be in school. At home, I am mastering the person I want to be and I hope to give my children this gift by home schooling them.
I hope that was as clear to you as it was in my head.
2011Res: To Matt: I absolutely adore that you are so focused on prioritizing our family. To Heidi: I am savoring the fact that you're not sick yet and just LOVE what a sweet, mellow baby you are. Dear Mr. H: I brought you some ginger ale when neither of us felt like moving a muscle.
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